Plan For It!
Usually, we are hit by the unexpected before we know that the vanilla world is going to sidetrack our kinky lives. It’s just the way it happens. For those of us in long-distance dynamics, that can spell a lot of heartache, distress, and despair. A partner just disappeared, and we have no way of knowing what has happened. Did they get bored? Are they hurt? Is there some family issue that they are dealing with?? This can be especially taxing on s-types and littles. We thrive on our daily interactions with our D-types.
Some Possible Solutions
I have been the victim of ghosting quite a bit over the years. Even with Draggy, there have been some major events that occurred to take him away from our routine communications. I do my best to avoid that horrible, sick feeling in the pit of my stomach that is fear. Fear of being abandoned, fear for my partner, fear that I will never know. So, in both of my long-distance dynamics, we have fail-safes in place.
Enacting the What if Clause
Here is the thing: Even when you have those fail-safes in place. When the sky falls, you still have to work through so many things that get put in the question box. I am speaking from current experience on this one, folks.
At The End Of The Day…
Being in a long-distance dynamic is difficult when everything is going smoothly. Even more so when things get thrown out of whack. Communication is needed at all points; during a crisis, it may be the most vital point. That is going to look different for each and every dynamic. It will require different measures for different situations. It is definitely worth considering before it happens.
Until next time, remember: This is your life; Live it your way!