Being part of the BDSM lifestyle for over 10 years has taught me many things. Within my local community I am known as an “edge play specialist,” but what is edge play? That will be the question I answer today and future publications will build on.

 

 

 

 

 

 

What Is Edge Play?

Edge play within the BDSM lifestyle is what kinksters will describe as anything that can cause serious harm or damage to another individual in any aspect, including mentally and emotionally as well as physically. Edge play is a broad term used for kinks in the lifestyle such as knife play, medical play, body modification, rope suspension, hook suspension, interrogation play, electrical play, fire play, liquid nitrogen play, primal play, fluid play, and many others.
Edge players are usually people who fall under the category of lifestylers who believe in RACK instead of SSC. SSC stands for Safe, Sane, and Consensual while playing and RACK stands for Risk Aware Consensual Kink. Due to edge play being a type that can be considered extremely dangerous, it is very hard for it to be considered safe or sane. Edge players always try to be as safe and knowledgeable in their skill sets as possible, but being human means that mistakes can happen. “Risk Aware” means that edge players — both the bottom and the top — know what all can go wrong and what to do if something does go wrong at any given moment. This allows for edge play to be truly consensual with all risks taken into account on both ends.

 

 

Safety

Safety is a big part of edge play of any kind, and each form of edge play has different forms of safety  implemented during play. Basic safety items, such as a fully stocked med kit, should always be in the play space, but another safety item is not always so easily seen. That item is knowledge. Edge play tops should have their CPR, first aid, and blood-bourne pathogen certifications, which can be easily obtained online or through your local Red Cross. It is also always a great idea to have a full blood panel, STD, and STI tests done to make sure both you and your bottom are clean and being as safe as possible every three to six months, or less depending on how many partners you have played with.

 

 

Whom Should You Do Edge Play With?

So, you have a top or Dominant, and you or them wish to try a form of edge play. What questions do you ask? How do you know this person knows what they’re doing and won’t harm you? That last question can never be answered by giving the time of how long you’ve known the person. You should always strive to keep yourself safe first. It is your job to ask for their credentials. Who taught them? When? Where? My all time favorite question to ask is, “Have you ever bottomed for it?”In my opinion, if someone isn’t willing to try something, they shouldn’t be trying or doing it to others. Always ask what risks are involved, if they have properly sterilized equipment (medical), and what plans are in place if something goes wrong. Do they have any medical certifications? You can also ask for references from people that they have played with before. Did they have a good experience doing what you’re thinking of doing with that person? If a top ever gets mad or cannot answer your questions, then do not engage in any type of play with that person. That is a major red flag.

 

 

A Little About Me

I guess I should probably give the readers a little glimpse into my qualifications that allow me to hold the title of edge play specialist. I’ve been in the lifestyle and a major driving force within the Upstate SC Community for a little over 10 years now. I have traveled extensively throughout the Southeast, going to cons and both large- and small-scale events to be taught by some of the most experienced people within the community. I’ve also had years of hands-on experience being trained by tops who are masters in their skillset. I’m also a licensed massage therapist, have an associate’s degree in applied sciences, am a licensed piercer, own Cyanide Suspension (flesh hook suspension), and run one of the largest event groups in the Upstate and a special interest group for Dominants to ask questions and discuss topics that many Dominants have issues with. My specialties include, but are not limited to: body modification, flesh hook suspension, artistic needles, artistic cutting/scarification, artistic branding, cell-popping, fire, electricity, knives, interrogation, degradation, humiliation, blood, primal play, blood cupping, and many others. I’m known for being a sadist with a love for Legos and dacryphilia, but I can also be a very sensual sadist. I use the term lifestyle because this truly is my life in every fiber of my being. I love this life and my community and strive to educate others so that they may be safe and find all the pleasure they are looking for.

 

 

What to look forward to

As the weeks progress, I will add to what you have read above and write about different types of edge play, how to properly do certain types, safety concerns, how to properly stock your medical kit, and will probably add in a few interesting stories that have happened during my experiences with edge play. There are many sites that can give you information into medical issues, what to be aware of for different types of play and all certifications you can get to make sure you are prepared for anything. I would advise, even if you are not an edge player and you are just part of the community or lifestyle, to go online or take a class to get certified for first aid, CPR/AED, and bloodbourne pathogens. Knowledge from those classes can be valued with all types of play within the BDSM lifestyle. Also, please take time to make sure you and your partner or partners have been checked for STDs and STIs since most of our communities are very close knit, and it is our job as individuals to make sure that while we are enjoying ourselves that we do no harm to others.

Remember: This is your life; live it your way, but be sure to play it safe in the DANGER ZONE!!

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