So after a rambling session with myself on paper, I’ve decided that my first post will be about D/s as a whole. What I see as the important things, things I have learned, and what I expect out of the D/s relationships I currently have or will have in the future.
You Can’t Be On All The Time
You might think you should be this cold unfeeling God (or Goddess) of pleasure and pain, but realistically you can only keep this up for a night or two. If it goes on for longer than that, it’s going to get tiring for you as well as your submissive.
I share this to show that while, yes, I am dominant towards Illiana, there are times where I am not able to perform as such and that is ok. Sometimes it’s the Black Dog of depression, sometimes I’m just not in a dominant mood and simply want to cuddle with her. Being in a 24/7 dynamic can’t be whips and chains all the time. Real life has a habit of rearing its head and dashing that fantasy.
Communication Is Key
As the saying goes, its all about communication, communication, and more communication. Everyone in the relationship should be able to talk about everything. It’s super important in any relationship. Having a bad day? Talk about it. Having a good day? Talk about that. Having a “meh” day? Talk about that.
Trust is a Must
Communication and trust are the big tent poles for any relationship; vanilla, kinky, poly, short-term, long-term, intimate, or not. You can’t have a good relationship without them.