Over the years the landscape of what is out there for those of us who ride and cross the lines of “normal” relationships has changed drastically. After 25 years of combined experience in both the poly and BDSM lifestyles, these are the best resources that we can personally recommend.
Conquer Me: Girl-to-Girl Wisdom About Fulfilling Your Submissive Desires by Kacie Cunningham
More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory by Franklin Veaux & Eve Rickert
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love by Janet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton
Kayla Lords: A Sexual Being – This is Kayla Lords’ personal blog and a wonderful view of the realities of this lifestyle.
Poly.Land – This blog by Page Turner offers useful and sometimes comically insightful information on relationships, specifically those of the non-monogamous variety.
Coffee & Kink – AmyCK lets you into her wonderfully vibrant view on all things from kink to polyamory and sexuality.
Submissive Guide – A wonderful wealth of information for all of those in the BDSM community, but it is aimed at submissives specifically.
Dominant Guide – The sister site to Submissive Guide aimed at Dominants, but again, a wealth of information for everyone in the BDSM community.
Castlerealm Archives – Castlerealm was my very first source of information on BDSM 21 years ago. Sadly the site is no longer up and running, but the lovely folks at KinkyToyChest have archived many of the articles. No list of recommendations from me would be complete without it.
Loving BDSM – Kayla Lords and John Brownstone deliver solid information on the BDSM lifestyle with down to earth, relatable banter and a good dose of humor and humility on their weekly show.
Multiamory – This Trio’s specialization is focused on communication and relationships. It’s great information whether you are monogamous or polyamorous.
KinkCraft – Kinkcraft is a podcast about all the lovely way to be kinky with some wonderful how-to’s thrown in there.
The Big Little Podcast – This podcast is specifically aimed at age players, but since we folks in the Caregiver/little world seem to get tossed in here, there is some wonderful information here.
This list will inevitably grow and change as time goes on. we have several books, blogs and podcasts in the wings waiting to be read or listened to. As always, remember: This is your life; live it your way!